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5 Ways to Calm Your Inner Bridezilla

It’s a word that’s thrown around in all sorts of situations, and not always fairly. Just because you’re having a bad day or are annoyed about something, it doesn’t make you a bridezilla! We don’t hear about groomzillas, but we’re sure they exist. 

Let’s be honest - in every bride-to-be there lurks the dark force of a bridezilla. She’s the one who goes overboard when something doesn’t go right. She’s the one who can’t get people to do what she wants when she wants (mainly because she’s shouting).  Of course there are moments during wedding planning when you need to put your foot down and take control, but it’s possible to do that without unleashing the bridezilla.

Try to keep calm

The bridezilla feeds off stress and rage, so the key to staying like the fairytale bride that you clearly are (even if you don’t always feel like it) is to stay calm no matter what the world throws in your way. One of the most stressful things you can do in life is plan a wedding, so take time out to get Zen. Have a relaxing bath, read a book or get to bed early. Whatever relaxes you – do it! Whenever you feel your stress levels rising, take a deep breath or leave the situation for a minute and return to your normal self again. 

Learn to delegate

Has your wedding planning turned into a balancing act between florists, caterers and anyone else you’re working with? Are you finding more and more of your time is being taken up by wedding planning to the point that you have had enough? When you’re at the point where you could just walk away from it all and elope in Vegas, don’t let the bridezilla have her day. Take a step back and see if you can delegate some of these tasks. Get your bridesmaids involved, your Mom, your dad, or your soon-to-be in-laws. If anyone is offering a helping hand you should accept. Once your tasks are delegated you need to let those people get on with them so you can focus on the things you need to do.

Be nice to people

While the whole world and their cousin wants to give you their opinion about your wedding day, just smile and be nice (might be easier said than done). Inside the bridezilla might be thinking up catty remarks and insults for these no-good interfering people, but outside you can do your best to keep a lid on her. Even if they’re talking absolute nonsense or are even insulting you and your plans, just smile and let their words float over you and they’ll walk away blissfully unaware that they had any affect on you. You have to be especially nice to your bridesmaids and bridal party. Bridesmaid cancelled another dress fitting? Try to keep calm and collected when finding out why and how you can solve this sticky issue. (Find out how to deal with bad bridesmaids)

Give yourself a break

Like lots of areas in our lives we tend to be our worst and toughest judges when it comes to how well we are doing. Although you want to have the perfect wedding, people will be happy to share in your day and celebrate. They don’t care if you didn’t have a flower wall like Kim and Kanye or wore a Badgley Mischka gown like Lauren Conrad! Don’t judge yourself too harshly about your wedding, and focus on having the perfect day your way. 

Enjoy yourself

While you’re focused on something that’s happening in the future, try and enjoy the moment and don't let everything pile on top of you. You’ll only have to organize a wedding once in your life so why not enjoy the experience! Don’t let that nasty bridezilla spoil the planning - savor the delicious cakes and food you will sample, and gasp at how amazing you look in a wedding dress. 



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