Two Families - One Wedding: Bringing Families Together at Your Wedding
As a couple become united on a wedding day so do their families. The joining of a couple in matrimony means two families come together through one couple on one beautiful day. You want both families to feel a part of this special moment in your lives, so we have compiled a few ways you can bring your families together on your wedding day.
Before the big day
It’s not the best idea to arrange for families to meet at the wedding, so arrange for the two sides to meet before the big day. You should arrange a small-scale meeting between them, and make it one that's not too formal so that you don’t build up extra pressure. If you want to do a meeting with the extended family then the holidays are the perfect time to introduce your fiancé to the rest of your family. Invite everyone to gather together and have everyone get to know each other.
On the invitation
Consider putting both sets of parents on the invitation, regardless of who’s paying for the wedding. That way both families will feel represented. If you want to stick with tradition, then you could mention them somewhere on the invitation, or a add a small note from them in the envelope.
Add some symbolism
There are lots of ways to symbolize the bringing together of two families by adding a unity ceremony to the wedding. You can do it in a way that suits your day, whether that’s formal, fun or silly. It may be rooted in religious or cultural traditions or it could just be a nice way to signify the new unity between two families.
The unity candle is the most traditional way that couples incorporate into their ceremony. During the ceremony, family members from each side light one of the tapered candles to symbolize the love and allegiance that each family has for the bride or the groom.
Other ideas include the sand ceremony that features two glass containers that are each filled with a different colored sand then members of the families scoop layers of the colored sand into a larger glass container. The water ceremony works on the same principal where smaller glasses filled with water and the bride and groom, then their families combine their glasses into one larger vessel of water.
Another idea is for the bride and groom to combine salt as a symbol of their unbreakable bond of love. At one time agreements were sealed with salt as it was seen as a precious commodity. In some countries the ceremony of breaking bread is a way to signify unity as it involved both mothers who will feed the couple pieces of Pitka bread with honey.
There are lots of other ways you can get your family involved in your ceremony, from having people give readings to the traditional roles given to fathers and mothers. Most importantly, find a way to unify your families that suits you and your day.