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Long or Short: How long should your engagement be?

So you got engaged. Congratulations! Now come the questions about when you will have the wedding. As a couple you shouldn't rush into organizing a wedding just because everyone around you is checking the mail for a wedding invitation. You can stay engaged for as long or as short as you want!

Brad an Angelina tied the knot after an engagement that lasted two years. Jessica Simpson and Eric Johnson were engaged for almost four years when they got married in June 2014. Long engagements are not out of the ordinary today and there's a lot to be said for not sprinting for the altar.

Having a long engagement means you can focus on other things than planning your wedding. You can get to know each other as people and figure out what you want for the future. You will be married for the rest of your life, so why rush into it? Enjoy the romantic moments that come with being engaged and the attention you get from friends and family (as they ask for the 50th time to see the ring!)

If you've got engaged early on in your relationship you might want to spend time getting to know one another. Perhaps you will move in together just to get used to it (we know from experience that living with anyone is tough). You can find out each others quirks and habits so they don't all come as a surprise after you have said 'I do'.

Another factor is money. The longer your engagement the more time you have to save for your dream day. You also have time to plan your wedding thoroughly and shop around for what you need. Want to visit 50 venues – with a long engagement you can take your time and visit as many as you want (or can handle). 

On the other hand if you know, you know! This is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, so why wait?

Mandy Moore and Ryan Adams tied the knot just one month after getting engaged and have just celebrated their wedding anniversary. Reese Witherspoon and Jim Toth married after being engaged for just over three months, and although they have faced tough times, the couple are still going strong.

Having a short engagement means you get to ride the wave of happiness from the proposal to the altar. Long engagements mean you have to watch friend after friend say their vows before you do. You can avoid all the longing to be married and just get on with it when you have a short engagement, as well as enjoying counting down to the big day!

You might have elderly relatives who might not be around if you wait too long. It might sound somber but it's a real consideration. There are lots of couples who have to cut engagements short and plan a wedding in a hurry because a close member of the family falls ill. If you have a short engagement you know you've had your special day surrounded by everyone who's important to you.

Stress and pressure have a great way of clearing our minds and making us focus. Rather than looking at every bouquet on offer, you zone in on the one you want and make quick decisions. When you are short on time you have no time for indecision so your dream day becomes clear in your mind and you can suddenly see everything you want and need. Your mind won't become cluttered with different theme ideas and suggestions from people. You'll have your day your way.

Are you in favor of a long or short engagment? Let us know in the forums.


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