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My Mother-in-Law Requested Save-the-Dates - Now She Doesn't Want Them? #REDMIST

Dear Olivia,

My future mother-in-law asked me to order extra save-the-dates for my fiancé’s family (that lives right here and they see almost every weekend!). I spent a ton of extra money ordering about 50 of them for his family, even though I thought it was unnecessary - but now that they have arrived, my future mother-in-law has decided she no longer wants me to send them. What do I do?! - Katrina


First off, you are not alone Frustration with your future in-laws is a very common theme in the planning process! It's important to remember that everyone’s heart is (mostly) in the right place - it’s an exciting time for all involved.

The bad news? There's no going back once you've ordered your printed items - so this may just be a hit you'll have to take. Since you printed them, you may as well send them out or it'll just be a waste of paper and money! I’m sure they're lovely and his family will be thrilled to receive them. 

Because you're just starting out with your planning, it's pretty safe to say this won’t be the only time your in-laws have an opinion you don't really like! Try to do your best to keep calm and composed. Be direct, polite and courteous - and let them know you value and appreciate their opinions. At the end of the day, the wedding is about you and your fiancé and the decisions are up to you two. You'll need to be a united front, setting boundaries and managing both of your parents’ expectations.

Believe it or not, the mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship can be a wonderful one, even if it's a little stressy at times! Try to get control of your emotions - this is the family you have chosen to join and will be a part of forever. If your future mother-in-law is critical, try really hard not to take it personally. Chances are, her criticism is probably coming from a place that has nothing to do with you. Talk to your fiancé about your frustrations (some, not all, of them) and let him speak to his parents if needs be. 

Find a healthy outlet to let go of your stress - which, trust me, will be coming from all angles throughout the process! Treat yourself to a spa day, have lunch with your girlfriends or check out completely for two hours at the movies - whatever it takes to bring you back to your center, at least for a minute!

Remember the big picture! You're about to embark on an amazing journey with the love of your life, starting your life together. Your wedding day will be one of the happiest days of your life and set the stage for years to come. Enjoy the ride!

Love, laughter and happiness,



Save the Date cards via Mixbook


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