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The secret to a happy and healthy relationship

If you were asked 'What is the secret of a long lasting relationship' what would you say? Some would say sex, others would say romance, but research has found that communication is the real key to a successful relationship.

Getting how you feel out there is one of the most important things you can do to maintain any of the relationships in your life - from the one you have with your true love to friendship. Holding onto feelings like anger, disappointment and regret means they only grow inside you and eventually burst out in an almighty row. So it's better to learn how to communicate with your partner so things don't get volatile.

But communication isn’t just about talking. Listening, understanding and empathy are all important parts of the process. During an argument you can find yourselves shouting at each other, but nobody is actually listening! Make sure you listen to what the other person has to say. Focus on the moment and try not to let your mind wonder. Avoid getting over emotional (hold back those tears) and be as clear as you can. 

Listening and understanding are important tools for learning about your partner's feelings. Once you begin to understand how they feel they will become more open to your point of view. Sometimes people just need to talk out their anger to get a better perspective on the problem.

Without having an open line of communication between you and your partner, all that unexpressed frustration will boil up and destroy even the strongest bond.

Take a tip from Scarlett Johansson: "I have learnt that communication is the most valuable part of a relationship. Being truthful to yourself and to your partner and, when you have a problem, getting to the root of it."


Like Aretha Franklin sang, all everyone asks for is a little R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Every relationship can do with a bit of respect and we should treat our partner the way we wish to be treated. Take time to appreciate each other and remember the adorable, sexy and funny qualities that attracted you to each other in the first place.

Every relationship we have in our lives goes through rough patches, especially the one we have with our partner. But lots of problems that seem huge can be worked on and worked out.

Take time out for each other and rediscover your love for one another. If your relationship is going through a tough time, talk about any issues and try to work out how you can deal with them. Once you work out where your problem areas are you can work on making things better so your relationship becomes stronger and healthier.

There are times when problems are too big to overcome, but if you try you might be surprised how something that's broken can be fixed.



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